Books

Over the years, I have read and been recommended by teachers, fellow doctors, patients and others, a wide range of books, articles and videos on diverse subjects, related to physical and emotional health, including Sleep, Neurology, Psychology, Relationships, Science and Spirituality. A list of resources is included here for those interested in further reading.
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An overview of common sleep problems encountered in children and adult patients. The clinical features, diagnosis and treatment of sleep disorders are explained by local sleep physicians. This book is recommended for local healthcare professionals who manage patients with sleep disturbances like insomnia, excessive daytime sleepiness and abnormal behaviours in sleep; as well as anyone interested in why and how we sleep normally, and what happens when we do not sleep well.

Written by the founding Father of Sleep Medicine, a pioneer and giant in the field of Sleep Medicine, William Dement, this classic book gives a comprehensive overview of Sleep Medicine in its early years, covering major discoveries in the field, common sleep disorders and why sleep is so important. The Promise of Sleep is a compelling and fascinating look – for anyone interested in Sleep Medicine – at why sleep, together with healthy diet and regular exercise, form the basic triumvirate of good health.

An informative book for parents who have difficulty putting their children to sleep, explaining techniques which can be used to help improve sleep in children naturally. This book is a well known classic by Dr Richard Ferber, who originated the Ferber method (also known as “Ferberization”) – which involves training an infant to sleep through the night.

Martin Seligman is a pioneer and leader in the field of positive psychology. This book discusses the psychology of happiness, and discusses ways of becoming happier, including the impact of factors such as marriage, religion, wealth, education and health, on happiness.

Malcolm Gladwell is a journalist and bestselling author who has written several books covering themes in sociology and psychology. In Outliers, he discusses how success comes about, and the role of factors such as environment, personal drive, ambition and opportunity. This is the book which popularized the idea that it takes 10, 000 hours of practice to achieve mastery in a field.

 

M Scott Peck was an American psychiatrist, well known for his first and most famous book, The Road Less Travelled, in which he explained his perspective on the nature of love (He defines love as, “The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth”). In this subsequent book, People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil, he describes troubling patients he encounters in his clinical practice, and offers insights as to why such people behave as they do, describing them as “evil”. The author gives suggestions from his experience as to how to recognize and deal with such difficult people.

Florence Littauer is a Christian author of self-help books, most well known for her books discussing the 4 temperaments in the “Personality Plus” system: Peaceful Phlegmatic, Perfect Melancholic, Powerful Choleric and Popular Sanguine. This book suggests an approach to “understand others by understanding yourself”. The author describes the strengths and weaknesses of each personality type, including a questionnaire which helps identify one’s predominant type. The author suggests that we can improve ourselves and our relationships by understanding and accepting ourselves and others (ie having empathy) better.

David Schnarch is a clinical psychologist in marriage and family therapy, and author of this pioneering book on intimate human relationships. This book addresses couples with relationship and intimacy problems they cannot solve on their own, and may not even understand. The author discusses healthy ways of managing conflict, including being true to oneself (ie. authentic), without alienating one’s partner. One of the ideas presented is that being in a committed relationship provides the impetus to grow as a person, which is a natural part of human development, and necessary for healthy long term relationships.

Timothy Keller is an American theologian and pastor. He and his wife have written this book with the primary goal “to give both married and unmarried people a vision for what marriage is according to the Bible”. This book provides a biblical perspective on marriage for those contemplating or already in a marriage, and also explores the themes of singlehood, sex and divorce. The authors draw from their collective experience of pastoring a church with a large single congregation, as well as a marriage of over three decades. This book offers both married and unmarried people a compelling vision of what marriage is, discussing the benefits and values of marriage. Also recommended for those contemplating marriage.

This well-known classic written by Gary Chapman, a pastoral and marriage counsellor, describes the different ways people experience and express love, suggesting simple and practical ways to improve communication in relationships in such ways that people can better feel loved and cared for. Through the course of his work, the author identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He suggests that love is a choice, to take actions to express love in the language that one’s partner understands and appreciates. The ideas conveyed in this book are easy to understand and will be of interest to those seeking to improve their relationships.

This book may be helpful to women who seek to understand the men in their lives better. The author Shaunti Feldhahn has conducted over a thousand personal and written interviews with men from different walks of life to understand the inner workings of men. The insights she provides are intended to help women understand, love and support the men in their lives better. Ways men may differ from women are explained, including a need to feel respected and affirmed, a mental burden to provide for the family, the impact of sex on his well-being and confidence, and how men are “visual” creatures.

This book, co-authored by husband and wife team Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, is a companion book to “For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men”, an earlier book. Based on hundreds of in-person interviews and a nationwide survey of four hundred women, the book discusses the six major findings about women: A fundamental insecurity about feeling loved, being emotional, the need for emotional and financial security, a need to be heard when sharing emotional problems, less emotional craving for sex than men in general, and a desire to be perceived as attractive to her partner. The companion books help men and women to learn empathy for one another.

This book by Craig Hill is about the profound importance of how words in the form of blessings help our children prosper and fulfill their individual destinies. Whether as a parent, grandparent, uncle or aunt, teacher or friend, as long as we have a heart for the precious children in our lives, we can speak life and blessing to the next generations, especially at critical times in their growth and development, to help them be established in their God given identity and destiny.

This book by South African orthopaedic surgeon Dr Michelle Strydom discusses comprehensively Medicine from a Biblical perspective, an earlier (4th) edition is available for free download (https://beyondthemountain.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/sanctification-of-the-heart-4th-edition-small1.pdf). Dr Strydom explains the “Mind-Body-Spirit” connection from a Biblical perspective, in relation to health and disease, for those interested to better understand this alternative (non-pharmaceutically based) path to healing – a controversial subject to some, which has come under intense scrutiny, especially in the recent global climate of crisis, chaos, limited mainstream physical medical resources and prolonged state of international “pandemics”. 

This is a well-known classic resource recommended by parents for anyone who has ever struggled with problems in the raising of children, describing a spiritual approach for those interested to discover different ways of dealing with issues such as identity, health, personal safety, character development, peer pressure, rebellion, school experiences, adolescence and relationships.